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of a few thoughts...

firstly, blogger has been crap. for some reason, everytime i write a post and click "publish" it removes all the paragraph spaces and lumps the entire post together. i already get enough flack from ageing readers about my punctuation or lack thereof coupled with my aversion for capital letters so it will literally blow out some eyeballs if i now start posting with no spaces, but hey.

as you very well know, of the four major areas one can safely talk about, i stick with religion and technology (with a sprinkle of politics). im sure you are awash with sports, entertainment, music, fashion and business updates so let me stick to the extremely subjective areas. so whats happening lately in my areas of specialization? quite a few things.

from sometime earlier this year, i have been feeling increasingly like i have outgrown the company i have surrounded myself with over the years. in some funny way, all of the things that my friends used to do that i found incredibly epic, just seems immature raised to power 10. traveling abroad every chance one gets, talking endlessly about how much game you're getting, drinking out all night in the name of TGIF, slagging off your boss every chance you get, always planning to buy a car you can barely afford and refusing to dress age appropriate on the assumption that wearing white soled shoes just reduces your age by ten years, just now seem altogether balderdash to me.

so yes, i woke up one day and realized that being friends with some people will not let you grow to your full potential. this is because they live to remind you that you have "changed" just because you have some good fortune. trust me, i have nothing to prove to nobody and so i decided they had to go. not like i'm keeping malice like two house-girls fighting over the gateman, but i have ensured that there is as much of a physical disconnect as there has been a mental one.

tag this irrational spontaneous behaviour what you will: growing up, old age, midlife crisis etc...it has happened and i am loving every moment. it puts everything else in perspective when you block out the noise of people always out for a hang out or a good time or the beach or a party in the pretext of socializing. what i now need to figure out is how to fire my personal assistant and start doing stuff myself. i'd hate to be disconnected from reality when my kids come along. whenever that is...i don't want to hear your whining on me getting married etc etc. oprah married money, we are kindred spirits, moving right along.

so other than that a few things have occurred which i am not allowed to talk because they are Men of God. i often think to myself that men of the cloth are very fortunate because they have that insurance policy against public opinion and criticism in the bible. you know, that whole "touch not my annointed thing?", i think it has been stretched to levels of ridiculousness but hey who am i to talk. years ago when PAstor Ighodalo remarried, i had gone on a campaign about the bible standards around separation and divorce. apparently, even bible scholars and senior christians said that i was quoting the portions of the bible in isolation and that grace abounds that facilitates the exception granted to Men of God. right.

anyhow, you can therefore imagine why i have decided to ignore the other Men of God who have followed suit, whether or not they were the aggressors. Pastor Chris Okotie and now Pastor Chris Oyakilome. he best advise i have received is to "pray for them"...and thats exactly what i have done. but i expect that people who fanatically follow men of the cloth will also learn that they are human and cannot be the standard for christian living. the bible is the only standard. deal with it.

i hope everyone is doing great. i'm sure y'all already know i have more a few common sense thoughts around this whole ebola series in nigeria (playing out like telemundo) but i will let it slide. plus i sometimes wish i could talk about my work and my pesky colleagues and this new aquarium guy that transformed my house and my new nephews (i have three now) and the fact that i am getting the iphone 6 plus come what may...er, yeah. see y'all around peeps. i hope to write more often again soon.

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