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times like today i am stuck. stuck because everything has been happening so fast but its all been too personal to paste on my blog. when i first started blog writing, i could have posted anything i liked cos it was accessible to only a few friends, now i get people from costa rica (not that its a bad thing).

as usual when i haven't written my blog in a long time, i'm just gonna do a quick round up of whats been popping and upping. okay, i'll stop trying to be funky at old age. lets do this from the most important to the least important shall we?

as y'all know from my several whining posts on the dangerous slope the country was going that i did not understand for the life of me why average citizens of a country would all think the same way about how to solve a national problem but the government just kept moving round in circles. and yes, i'm talking about militancy in the north and south of nigeria. the approach so far has been to pay off these criminal elements milking us all of our hard earned tax monies under the guise of aggitating for a noble cause. to cut the long story short, through these hefty payments, many of which is not declared to the nigerian public, the south militant groups went away for 3 years, the north militant groups decided to get their share of the booty and now we are in a dire situation. according to the president, there are serious seccessionist and public rebellion attempts in the north and FINALLY he has declared a state of emergency. listening to the radio on my way to work this morning, station after station, market woman after barber after policeman, agreed that it was the right move but way too late in the day. with all the special assistants and senior special advisers, this is the government we get? paid advice is clearly not always the best advice.



moving on. i wrote a blog post sometime back where i interviewed my friend Tims who left her job at a multinational company to pursue her dreams of running a bridal consultancy outfit. although my intrigue at her conviction formed the basis of that interview, i still somehow didn't grasp the magnitude of it. somewhere in my head i felt she was just fed up with her job and needed to "try her hands" at something she loved and would soon be bored. well, a bridal studio, worldclass website, media campaign, employees, widely read blog and celebrity clients later, and i'm thinking maybe i should leave my own job too and go pursue my dreams of er...salsa dancing (pot belly and all). but f'real, you know how you go through someone's blog post and come away feeling thrice smarter. i just realized that there is a science to bridal fashion. i know that sounds pink but i'm not kidding. i got on the phone to her to critique something she wrote and by the time she was through explaining how every piece of attire on a bride is determined by several factors from skin shade to prefered make up to body size...i was speechless. this wasn't just mills and boon stuff about butterflies and fairytales, this was deep. you've got to read her brief takes on everything from bolleros (i just learned that) to pressed swarovski aso oke. not even kidding. http://idoweddingsng.blogspot.com/




and then there was that little holiday i took. nothing major, but since all my closest friends are my biggest haters, i just love to mention that i'm on official leave from work every 6 or so months. yes, i do work y'all, and no i don't bribe anyone to approve the leave dates...contrary to what y'all might think. i wish i could tell you where i went but that would be considered "showing off" seeing as we live in a third world country where people have not much to eat. plus, laying low in these treacherous times is not such a bad idea. but i had the maddest fun, caught up with old friends and had time away from this madness. as they say in this part of the world, i "did and undid"...and came back broke and high as a kite. plus i took my gangster ish all the way there and back. go on an' hate.




so yeah, thats the highlight of whats been down...and i'm back on the grind. somehow its good to have a normal life (dreary as it may get) to return to after the euphoria of a holiday. i suddenly have the will to write all over again...and trust me, the government might just have to take note.

before i go though, here's a sincere thanks to all of you who have written in with amazing entries on where our blog 5th anniversary prize should go. i appreciate all your efforts and we (judges and i) are eager to announce the winners soon.

see y'all around peeps.

Comments

Ginger said…
I see you! Hmm can't see the gangster o. but if you say you are, who am i to dispute lol.

Welcome bk. Holidays are good..strikethat, Holidays are essential for normal functioning :)

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